Part 4: Greg shares the third step in the game plan for sharing your Christian convictions with others.
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The tactical game plan is meant to help you
maneuver carefully and productively in a relaxed way, in a friendly fashion, in
conversations with people who don't share your convictions while providing a
tremendous amount of safety for you. The first step is to gather information. You
gather that information by asking some form of the question, "What do you mean
by that?" The second question is to reverse the burden of proof. That is, once
you learn what a person's view is, you want to know why they believe that view.
They made the claim, they bear the burden of proof. You can ask them, "Now how did
you come to that conclusion?" If it turns out that you want to go further, then the
third step of the game plan is to make a point using questions. You never want to
abandon using questions at every stage of the tactical game plan because they
give you a tremendous amount of latitude, liberty, and effectiveness without
requiring you to take any responsibility on yourself. So what you want to do is,
you want to enlist the other person as an ally. You want to assemble your pieces
by having that person help you put them on the table,
and if you help them to do that, it's going to be very difficult for them to
take that piece off of the table. Let me give you an example of what I'm talking
about. Once, somebody said, "Prove to me that God exists." I said, "First of all, do
you think that things exist?" He said, "Yeah, of course." Yeah, I know.
It's a simple question. Great. Now he's just put a piece on the table – things
exist. Second question, "The things that exist, have they always existed?" In other
words, is the universe eternal? And so he said, "No, I think the universe is not
eternal, that it came into existence." Then I asked the third question,
"What caused everything to come into existence?" And here you only have two
options: Either some thing or no-thing. Now, what have I done? I'm making an
argument for the existence of God based on the existence of the
cosmology or the cosmos which is a cosmological argument. In other words, the
universe came into existence. What caused it? It's a very very usable fruitful
kind of argument. But notice how I got there. Instead of just throwing it out, I
am setting it up by asking questions to have that person give me the pieces
that I need, okay? So there's me trying to make my point by asking questions to get
the pieces on the table before I get to my point. Another thing that you want to
do, another point you may want to make, is you may want to exploit a
weakness or a flaw, okay? But you want to use questions to do that. So I had a
young man tell me that I was judgmental. So I asked the question, "What do you mean
by that?" Clarification. He said, "Well, it's it's wrong to judge.
You are you're finding fault with somebody else, and it's wrong to do that."
Okay now he's made another statement. I got a piece on the table, and I said to him –
now notice this is a question – "If it's wrong to judge, then why are you judging
me right now?" Now, I could have said, "Well, you're judging me!" That's a claim. Now
it's an accusation. That's a fight. But if he says, "It's wrong to judge," then I hold
him responsible for his own ethical view. "Then why are you judging me right now?"
Little later he said, "Well I think it's wrong to push your views on other people."
So I asked him a clarification question, "Is that your view?" He said, "Yes," and then I
said, "Then why are you pushing it on me right now?"
Another question that keeps me safe. I'm not making a claim. I'm not advancing my
argument, I'm using questions to point out a weakness or a flaw in that
person's view. Now there are dozens and dozens and dozens of ways of doing this,
and you're gonna find this out just through practice. But if you start with
your game plan, and you ask questions about the person's point of view, "What do
you mean by that?" Then questions regarding the reasons that they have for
their view now, "How did you come to that conclusion?" And you decide you want to go
further to use questions to make a point, either to advance your own view in some
way or to exploit a weakness or a flaw you see in the other person's, that is
the most powerful and effective way of moving forward. Plus, keep in mind there's
no risk to you at this point. You are asking questions almost the whole time.
You're engaging in a friendly way. It is a wonderful way to powerfully make your
points as a follower of Christ.