Sexuality and Gender

Where’s the Marriage Equality for Throuples?

Author Amy K. Hall Published on 04/25/2014

Did you hear about the “world’s first married lesbian threesome”?

Doll, Kitten and Brynn Young married in a ceremony in August 2013, when each of their fathers walked them down the aisle. All three women wore white wedding gowns and exchanged rings.

The so-called ’throuple’ worked with a specialist family lawyer who drew up the paperwork and drafted the ceremony so that all three of them were obligated and bound to each other.

While Brynn and Kitten are legally married, Doll is handfasted to both so the threesome are as equally married to each other as legally possible.

If only bigoted statutes didn’t exist to prevent the government from treating them equally under the law and endorsing the choice of partners their orientation calls for:

Doll had known that she was polygamous since high school. She explains: “I had always dated girls—who although they had boyfriends or girlfriends—were also allowed to date me.”

“I never thought that much about it and I had never really ’come out’ as poly to my friends and family. To me, it was just how I was”...

Before meeting Doll and Brynn, Kitten had been in two long-term relationships with men. Her first relationship lasted ten years and she had been engaged to her second boyfriend...

'The whole break-up forced me to really think about who I was and I realized that I had not been honest to myself. On reflection, I realized that I hadn’t been happy in my previous monogamous relationships and I discovered that I was poly...

Kitten says: “...I had a very traditional upbringing and marriage had always been an important symbol of commitment for me. We wanted to celebrate our love in a wedding like everyone else.”

Love is love!

The threesome insist their relationship is like that of any normal couple: having breakfast with one another, watching TV after work and sharing a bed together...

Kitten, Brynn and Doll had to work with the legalities of the state to get married to each other. As being married to more than one person is not currently legal, they had to combine handfasting, legally binding documents and legal marriage.

A family lawyer drew up paperwork—in terms of assets, wills and legal rights to children—to bind them all together as much as they could without an actual three way marriage...

They hope to show the world that polyfidelity is an acceptable choice of love.

There’s no rational reason to legally discriminate against three people who love each other. These polyphobic laws “demean the throuple, whose moral and sexual choices the Constitution protects.” It’s clear that the purpose of defining marriage as “two” is “to disparage and to injure” throuples, motivated by “animus” against polys and a “bare congressional desire to harm a politically unpopular group.”

Brynn says: “Doll, Kitten and I may not be the norm but we are perfectly normal. We are simply people trying to live the life that we feel is best for us and we deserve the rights afforded to others.”

Marriage equality!