Author Jonathan Noyes
Published on 06/19/2023
Sexuality and Gender

Should I Decline to Attend a Same-Sex Wedding?

Jon Noyes explains his personal convictions regarding whether a Christian should attend a same-sex wedding.


Question: Should I attend a gay wedding?

Jon: I’ll give you my personal take. I think there’s a subjective component, and you need to judge where you are with the people that you’re talking to. The short answer is no, I would not attend a gay wedding. Why? Because I think your attendance to a ceremony is a show of support, and that show of support is a show of agreement. I know that I would have a problem doing that, from personal experience. I’ve been invited to a gay wedding and turned it down. But because I love the individuals who were coming together—I don’t think it’s “marriage,” ultimately, so I don’t want to call it a “marriage”—I made a point of contacting them in person, sat down, talked to them, gave them my reasons why and my justifications. I wasn’t looking for agreement or permission. I asked if I could have them over for dinner instead. So, I chose not to attend the ceremony because I don’t think I can support what we’re calling a “gay marriage.”

I’ve seen people give different answers to this for different reasons. I’m not going to argue with somebody on it. I’ve seen people just go to receptions, not the ceremony. This is a hard one. This is where the rubber meets the road, but there’s people involved, and regardless of these people’s view of reality—their worldview—they’re made in the image of God, and they’re deserving of respect and dignity, even if I disagree with them on everything, including their views of marriage.