Christian Living

An Apologetic against Dating in High School

Author Alan Shlemon Published on 01/29/2019

High school students love to say they’re dating “to get to know each other better” and “to see if we’re compatible.”

If my kids offer that excuse, I’d like to respond with this hypothetical but honest explanation.

Here’s a short excerpt:

If no one is ready to get married at the age of 16, then “getting to know” someone romantically in high school will simply terminate the relationship, because you will learn the person you are dating is not yet marriage-material. I don’t mean that as an insult. At 16, a person might have a lot of potential, but you should marry someone based on what they have done, not what you hope they will someday do. At 16, you just haven’t accomplished enough to be worthy of marriage.... Marriage is a noble and high calling. Think of marriage as an honor which must be prepared for.

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