Did you know that this is national marriage month? I didn't. But Marvin Olasky does and has written an interesting article on what the Bible teaches about marriage and the roles of husband and wife. Olasky draws a complementarian model from the Bible rather than the egalitarian model prominent in our culture, and he points out that this has many implications for the roles of husband and wife. He points out some very interesting examples in the Bible of married women who don't at all fit the caricature of submission that is often mocked and horrifies feminists. Olasky concludes:
"Here's what seems to me to be biblical: Everyone, male or female, should be told, 'Be all that you can be,' but what most of us can happily be depends on the way we are made -- and God knows our frames. He knows, because He made us, that men and women are complementary in nature."
We're equal in value, but not the same so our roles and needs are different. This is the reason I'm not a feminist: Feminism is based on the lie that men and women are identical and can do exactly the same things. Feminism presumes that men and women are interchangeable, and that is simply against the evidence of nature and the Bible. (I was so proud recently when my oldest niece declared that she disliked feminism and relativism.) Building successful marriages has to begin with real views of how men and women are made and what we're made for.