I need to let you know that although we love you and look forward to seeing you, we don't want you to bring your friend with you. We have nothing against him personally. If he were visiting as an individual under other circumstances, that would be another matter. I don't believe in ostracizing others whose behavior I disagree with.

This situation is different, though. In so far as the two of you are in the relationship you're in, welcoming you both as a couple would be treating as good and normal a relationship which is neither.

Our concerns may cause you to cancel your visit. I hope not. We'd like to see you. However, in good conscience we must insist on this principle in our home.

Sincerely,

Gregory Koukl